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Is your marriage frustrating and decomposing? Has marriage become a bitter pill you regret swallowing? Does your spouse now irritate you? Do you consider your spouse as highly selfish and mean? Is your spouse cheating on you? Has bitterness, malice, resentment and unforgiveness become your dearest companion? God can bring honey out of that situation. Do not suffer in silence. Seek Godly counsel now. Don't give up. God has answers that would calm every raging storm in your marriage. Pride destroys. Let's talk now!

Marriage is a form of contractual relationship between two consenting adults which constitutes the core of a nuclear household or family in most societies. There are various kinds of marriages which includes religious, legal and/or social marriages. In many western countries, marriages are enacted as a social but legal agreement. There are polygamous marriages which involves one man marrying several wives. This is very common in African and Islamic nations. King Solomon can be aptly referred to as the father of all polygamists. Also, there is the monogamous type of marriage which is predominantly a legal form of marriage in western countries such as in England and also in the United States of America. There is also the polyandry form of marriage where one woman takes several husbands. As you may well know, marriage was first of all enacted in the Garden of Eden between the first man Adam and the first woman Eve. Marriage is a perfect and beautiful Institution created by God himself. Whatever God does is perfect. However, the prince of darkness relentlessly seeks to pollute or destroy all of God’s creation which includes marriages. The woman was created for the man as a suitable help and companion. When the Institution of marriage was first established between Adam and Eve, they became one. Marriage is to be consummated in sex. Even when Adam sinned against God in Eden which brought about spiritual separation from God as well as death and other penalties, the marriage Institution was left intact. Marriage is a very vital unit of any society. It is a societal building force. Any society where there is a high rate of crime, for instance, is a reflection of failed marriages. Marriage establishes the authority of parents over their children, husbands over their wives and vice versa, and this entails control over their sexual cravings. When the purpose for marriage is not known, the abuse of marriage will be unavoidable. Many marriages are decomposing daily because countless married couples fall into a satanic trap called offence. This often breeds bitterness, resentment , malice and unforgiveness which often culminating in separation or divorce. Divorce has become incredibly and alarmingly prevalent among millions of couples. It is the termination of marriage relationships. In many western nations, it is relatively a very simple process widely and socially acceptable. Divorce and re-marriage has become a norm in many Societies. Most celebrities in western countries are known to marry, divorce, re-marry, divorce again and the trend goes on and on like a joke. Some even divorce about four times and marry or re-marry about five times. Divorce is an evidence of the inability of couples to manage their marital affairs effectively and this usually has adverse effect on children and dislocates the destinies of many. That makes them poor managers. There are several reasons why lots of people including Christians seek separation or divorce. Some of the reasons are:

• Selfishness;
• Financial difficulties;
• Prayerlessness;
• Constant drunkenness;
• Arrogant pride and stubborness;
• Domestic violence;
• Childlessness;
• Incompatibility;
• Wickedness;
• Insecurity: Lack of trust;
• Influence of hard drugs;
• Erroneous presumptions;
• Inability to handle parenting issues;
• Negative influence from relatives;
• External negative influences;
• Unhealthy competition between married couples;
• Infidelity in marriage - adultery: This is very common and is responsible for the failure of many marriages;
• Poor sex life, e.g. insufficient sex; premature ejaculation; impotence, etc;

There is no perfect man, no perfect woman, and no perfect marriage. The absence of true love is the cause of most separation and divorce cases globally. There is a joke which states that when a man opens a car door for his wife, it is either the wife is new or the car is. This is a joke that speaks volumes. The only way to truly love is to live by God’s precepts, for God is love. When a couple constantly has fellowship with the word of God, their marriage will be blissful and will prosper. Prosperity does not imply financial abundance only, it entails flourishing in every area of one’s life: good health, marital bliss, financial sufficiency, etc. An individual who is financially endowed but constantly experiences marital earthquakes at home cannot be a happy person. Satan is the root cause of all separation and divorce cases as he goes about in search of the slightest opportunity and opening to invade vulnerable and weak marriages so he can destroy them. His destiny is solely to perpetuate evil and bring ruin to humanity. Separation of married couples and divorce are highly predominant worldwide. What does God say about this? He says:

“I hate divorce” - Mal. 2:16a.


There are various horrid incidences that transpire in many marriages. One may wonder why many couples even decided to get together in the first place when one hears the atrocities and ordeal that take place in such marriages. More often than not, the issue of finances is one inflammable catalyst that time and again triggers marital turmoil. Many married couples live like cat and mouse in their homes consequent upon the vacuum created in their relationships as a result of their inability to manage financial issues. A couple become one when they get married but for many, that priniciple does not include their finances. Husbands or wives make important financial investments and secretly keep such away from their spouses. However, when unforseen problems such as debt or health challenges come knocking, they want the support of their spouses. Every married couple has one joint account in heaven whether they believe it or not. It is appauling what goes on in many marriages, including Christian homes. I have observed from several marriages that when things are going well i.e. while there is a smooth flow of money, lots of marriages tend to blossom harmoniously but when the trials and difficulties of life comes visiting, then you’ll hear statements like: “Please I’m not cut out for this kind of life….better sort out your problems and keep me out of them” or “ I never had such difficulties in my life until I married you”. I have heard couples call their spouses “Jezebel”, ”Witch”, “Nonentity”, “Idiot!”


Lack or breakdown in communication between married couples is one lethal bug that leads to the decay and disintegration of many marriages which are ultimately slaughtered by the spirit of divorce. I know a lady who finds it extremely difficult to greet her husband in spite of several counsel. It is her husband who usually says hi. So whenever her husband is tired (ego problem) of saying hi to his wife who perhaps feels too cool with herself, then tension gradually emanates and before long, the spirit of strife and malice becomes ‘the unseen guest at every meal, the silent listener to all their conversation’. Every level of communication in marriage is very vital and must not be trivialized, not even the mere exchange of pleasantries and greetings. The demons called strife, malice, jealousy, rage, selfishness, and unforgiveness have unfortunately succeeded in destroying countless marriages.

Is your marriage heading for the rocks? Has marriage become a bitter pill for you? Are you hurting terribly? Do you feel depressed and miserable? Your marriage can come alive and blossom again. Many times, divorce seems so reasonable but don’t give up. God is able to bring honey out of the carcasses of your decomposing marriage. Divorce has become a lethal scourge in many societies. Marital turbulence is terrible and can lead to severe bitterness, physical fights, depression, jealousy, emotional pain and health problems. It can also lead to suicide tendencies. Don’t ever give up. God is on your side to disgrace the enemy. He has giving you the power to defeat failure and misery. Don’t suffer in silence: Let’s talk about your situation and I believe your marriage will eventually become as sweet as honey.

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Ejiro Okene